Joined: Aug 2001 Gender: Female Posts: 46 Location: Herefordshire, UK
Re: Got DLA decision... « Result #1 on Dec 28, 2005, 7:16pm »
Long time no post... oops! The short version is that after a short spell in temporary accommodation provided by the housing association I was allocated a bungalow reserved for those with a medical need - what with that and my priority card I was way ahead of anyone else on the list. Have been here since June but am only just getting things under control - there is no built-in storage and having moved from a 2-bedroom house to a 1-bedroom bungalow there just isn't enough room for my stuff. And my emails really piled up by the time I got broadband reconnected, even checking emails from Jon's whenever I visited I still had 8000-odd emails to read/sort. Have had various stresses to sort out, including 2 different pest problems, relapses in health, benefits hassles, pain-in-the-butt neighbours and so on... So am still feeling pretty overwhelmed. But on the plus side, I survived the year with my sanity intact and a wonderful boyfriend by my side
How many of you guys are still actually reading the board? Apologies for the site being offline, Overhauling and reuploading my websites after a security problem got my hosting withdrawn has kinda been low on my list of priorities lately, though I hope to get them up and running again soon.
"Believe, when you are most unhappy, that there is something for you to do in the world. So long as you can sweeten another's pain, life is not in vain." --Helen Keller
Joined: Aug 2001 Gender: Female Posts: 46 Location: Herefordshire, UK
Housing « Result #2 on Mar 9, 2005, 12:42pm »
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I'm on a housing list but there are so many people and so few houses, and I'm waiting for a decision on my application to have my "banding" upgraded (am currently silver having appealed my way up from bronze, but I'm hoping for a priority card or at least gold...). I've been applying for houses but there are always loads of people higher on the list - with gold or priority I would have a fighting chance of actually getting a house *before* I become homeless. So stress stress stress...
A little good news at last - I've been given a priority card. Nothing I can apply for this week but hopefully there will be a better selection of houses next week...
"Believe, when you are most unhappy, that there is something for you to do in the world. So long as you can sweeten another's pain, life is not in vain." --Helen Keller
Joined: Aug 2001 Gender: Female Posts: 46 Location: Herefordshire, UK
Re: Got DLA decision... « Result #3 on Mar 5, 2005, 9:50pm »
Hi, thanks for posting.
I'm a bit more chilled about the benefits thing but still hate "the system" cos for the past 6 months I have been dealing with an absolute ton of housing hassles. First a mess-up with my housing benefit, then I find I really can't afford to stay here but they won't give me any extra funding. So I'm paying back a load of overdue rent and I have to be out in 5 weeks but I don't yet have anywhere to move into. I'm on a housing list but there are so many people and so few houses, and I'm waiting for a decision on my application to have my "banding" upgraded (am currently silver having appealed my way up from bronze, but I'm hoping for a priority card or at least gold...). I've been applying for houses but there are always loads of people higher on the list - with gold or priority I would have a fighting chance of actually getting a house *before* I become homeless. So stress stress stress...
On the plus side I met a wonderful guy, he encourages me and motivates me so much, I won't bore you with the details now as i'm supposed to be packing the car for the car boot sale in the morning, but he makes me so happy.
Oh, and I still can't cook, LOL, I scalded myself making a Pot Noodle the other day - and the DLA people reckon I'm not at risk of harming myself...? Ha-flippin'-ha!
"Believe, when you are most unhappy, that there is something for you to do in the world. So long as you can sweeten another's pain, life is not in vain." --Helen Keller
Re: Got DLA decision... « Result #4 on Mar 5, 2005, 5:34am »
Hi Helen ,
I was wandering by and happened to read your post.... I know what you mean....I have had the same problem with the money one gets from the system, and what you have to go through to get it, and keep it...and the expectations they place on you....I'm from the US so its different initials but the way the system works sounds pretty similar.... I like the way you said ha - flippin - ha about cooking crispy pancakes by yourself lol, sounds like you have some similar problems to me, and a sense of humour... maybe sometime we could compare notes more ...its almost sunrise here, I have a weird case of insomnia... I do understand the feeling tho of wanting acknowledgement that you need help.... and the garbage they put us through to get any much less what we really need... I could go on and on I spose.... Good luck tho, and take care, I will bookmark your site.... I have one too..... but its having probs right now....
Re: Introduction « Result #5 on Feb 20, 2005, 8:27am »
Hello people,
I was looking for affiliate partners for the community I am on. People can go to it here: http://suicidestories.proboards18.com Sorry that the link url is harsh but it's a forum about depression and self-injury. If anyone is interested, you are welcome to visit. I see this forum has lost its activity since July, a bummer. Yet I hope many are still around.
Joined: Aug 2001 Gender: Female Posts: 46 Location: Herefordshire, UK
Got DLA decision... « Result #6 on Jul 15, 2004, 6:01am »
Well, it's kinda good and bad.
Kinda good because I got some - high rate mobility. Meaning I'm no worse off than I am now - at least I don't have the stress of a reduction in income from that angle (already lost nearly half my I.S. cos of Dug moving out) to stress over (unless I appeal and risk losing the lot...).
Bad because despite monumental effort on my part to convey all my woes & limitations on the form, they think I need no help during the day or night and can cook a meal if ingredients are provided. I bloody wish! I burnt "crispy pancakes" yesterday for the second time in a row, how much simpler can you get than 12 minutes under the grill? And I'm supposed to be able to cook a main meal? Ha-flippin'-ha.
I split up with my boyfriend, have no healthy friends in the area (ie contact limited to when 2 "poorlies" are both well enough), and am feeling pretty lonely. I do NOT need D.L.F-ing A. telling me I don't need any care.
I guess I'm going to appeal this time, though goodness knows where on earth the strength and energy is going to come from. I can scrape by on what they've given me but it's the principle of it too - I'm sick and tired of struggling by myself - I want acknowledgement that I do need help.
"Believe, when you are most unhappy, that there is something for you to do in the world. So long as you can sweeten another's pain, life is not in vain." --Helen Keller
Re: new to board--really bad day « Result #7 on Jun 25, 2004, 8:14am »
Hey my name is jennifer I think you should just try to not be so worried about what they think. Maybe you don't need to go anywhere you know maybe you have things todo at home. I don't know maybe you'll feel better soon okay feel better soon.
"Believe, when you are most unhappy, that there is something for you to do in the world. So long as you can sweeten another's pain, life is not in vain." --Helen Keller
"Believe, when you are most unhappy, that there is something for you to do in the world. So long as you can sweeten another's pain, life is not in vain." --Helen Keller
Joined: Aug 2001 Gender: Female Posts: 46 Location: Herefordshire, UK
Re: Bad week... « Result #10 on Jun 5, 2004, 6:00am »
Guess I ought to update... as of last Sunday, I am officially single. Mentally I'm coping ok right now, I just thought so much about it beforehand that my brain just refused to think about it any more. Just went numb. Friends have been very supportive, visiting and phoning to make sure I'm ok. I've been doing a lot of tidying and budgeting, I think I felt like those were areas I still had some control over (and I've been gradually sorting Dug's stuff from mine...). Practically, I will cope, I think things will get easier when Dug has moved out and I have everything under control again.
"Believe, when you are most unhappy, that there is something for you to do in the world. So long as you can sweeten another's pain, life is not in vain." --Helen Keller
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